Given that our own relationship fulfillment (emotional and sexual) continues to be beyond our most ardent dreams, we are always curious to see if other couples where the man has impotency are having a similar experience. Every woman we have interviewed over the years who has been with a man with E. or full impotence –and who has not slipped into despair or victimhood, describes them as “The world’s greatest lovers!” Okay, I know, this sounds very self-serving given my condition, but stay with me and you will see why this response is not that unusual.And that’s when this meeting took an interesting turn…First, some back story, before we get to that unexpected twist that happened at the end of my talk.As a fully impotent cancer survivor with a female partner, we have been speaking to men, women and couples about sex, intimacy and relationships for years.Based on his research, here are eight reasons why women can’t find a man — and strategies for increasing their odds. “Because women have been graduating from college in 30-plus percent greater numbers than men for years, there are now four women for every three men nationally in the marriage-age, college-educated dating market,” Birger says.The island is great for, say, watching a cheesy musical or spending 0 on a bottle of vodka. In Manhattan, the numbers are even more dire, with 38 percent more young female college grads than male.The first map, like the original, charts the surplus of men or women ages 18-64.As in 2007, the odds still favor single men on the East Coast, single women on the West. Conversely, there are roughly 50,000 more single men than women in San Diego; a surplus of 38,000 men in Seattle; and over 20,000 more single men than women in San Jose, San Francisco, L. The odds also favor single women in the Twin Cities of Minneapolis-St.
Last Wednesday evening I was speaking to such a group in the wonderful town of Blue Ash, Ohio.In “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” out today, Birger, a former writer for Fortune and Money magazines, crunched demographic, census and other data to show that it really is historically rough out there for the ladies.After noticing that his single gal pals were always complaining that “guys were ignoring them or were toying with them,” Birger decided to investigate.A look that millions of men have when they struggle with this condition that seems to becoming increasingly prevalent.I half-joked that Jacqueline and I considered starting a dating site for men with E. because there were many women who would love to be their mate.
One of the men who showed up, about my age and suffering from impotence, shared that he pretty much has given up any hope of being with a woman for the rest of his life.