We decided to wait six months before my first meeting with his girls: a trip to the arcade at Castle Park in Sherman Oaks. “He’s a director,” I told my friend L., absently fiddling with the lighter in my hand. We went to Club 33 at Disneyland and he treated me to couples massages and pool time at the Four Seasons spa. I was starting to wonder what our relationship would look like when it became a story for four, instead of two.
He could potentially be your brother-in-law before he’s your husband.
If your sister begins dating a member of the same family you are, do everything in your power to end it, and avoid the struggles. How are they supposed to remain loyal, and supportive to you while still going on vacations and dinners with the family? You’ll have to sneak around the house searching for what your sister got her boyfriend’s parents for Christmas so you don’t look cheap in comparison.
The entire point of having a sister or brother is that if (when) you break up with your partner, THEY BREAK UP WITH THEM TOO. Good luck to you if your sibling goes to church with your partner’s family before you do.
I believe that a lot of aimless dating isn't really doing much good for her or her children.
Dear Worried: You're right — aimless dating because of loneliness, guilt or desperation is not good for your friend or her children.
My friend considers herself to be at fault for her divorce, even though her ex was a horrible human being (though not physically abusive). She is going out of her way to make sure that her kids have a male "father figure" in their lives. I have tried telling her that she is enough, that the kids truly do love her, and that those of us around her are more than glad to pick up the slack, but it often falls on deaf ears.