Normally, on Hinge you're free to use whatever opening line you want — it shows you mutual friends and interests then gives you a blank canvas to write whatever you want.
But for one month, Hinge gave a random 22% of users the option to use a clever prewritten opening line in addition to writing their own messages. They then tracked which of those prewritten lines were most likely to get a reply, using the data to determine which lines worked best based on gender, location, and how fast you sent a message after getting a match.
Below, I have outlined some good and bad examples of messages and have given some tips on how to send an effective message on an online dating site.
Whatever happens, don't be put off sending messages, a cheesy message is better than no message at all!
As I stressed in the previous two posts, first impression is vital in dating.
It is especially so for online dating because of how efficient it is to meet people over the Internet.
What's a better line: "How you doin'" or "How you doin'? Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas?
" The dating app Hinge (it's like Tinder but based more on your Facebook friend group) did some experimenting to find out what kinds of opening messages work best once you've been matched with someone.
Writing an interesting question or two can't guarantee a response, but NOTHING CAN. Don't waste your time and don't waste anyone else's — you have to put in a little work this way, but just do it.It's presumptuous to list a bunch of unrequested information about yourself in your message, because doing so assumes that this person already thinks of you as a candidate.Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet.I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse.
I don’t know about you, but I usually don’t give my time as generously to reading emails from people I don’t already know, and I tend to hit the delete button more often. We may share a few things in common, particularly an interest in snapping photos and a degree of intellectual snobbery.