If you’ve read this blog for long enough and my ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, you’ll know I’ve warned of the perils of Betting On Potential which is essentially gambling at the relationship casino, only you’re an inexperienced gambler that hangs at the wrong tables, has no exit strategy and will go for broke before taking a hint. You think that if they do ‘improve’, that it must mean that the problem wasn’t anything to do with them or the relationship; it was about you.That’s why so many women in particular get stuck on ‘Why her and not me?Instead of thinking about who they consistently are and the present, you think about the good ‘ole days and wish they’d change back.
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But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.
My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.
It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.